https://slate.com/human-interest/2021/07/queer-identity-changing-care-and-feeding.html

Maybe there’s a difference between authentic gender identity concerns and… something more pathological… that is being produced and promoted by media and specific ideological cohorts…

Note particularly the conflicts in the following quote… and, emphatically, the hypothetical nature of the situation (i.e. no relationships in which eros might be central).

It is possible to import intellectual problems that masquerade as gender issues… but are actually more about representational cognition and categories than they are about gender…

“I need some help gaining perspective on my 15-year-old child’s whiplash approach to gender and sexuality. For the last three years, they have been on a journey with regard to their sexuality, declaring and changing identities one every few weeks or months, even when those identities have been both contradictory (how can one be both asexual and polyamorous?) and hypothetical (my kid isn’t dating and hasn’t dated). They are committed to being anything but cisgender and hetero, and that identity—whatever it turns out to be—appears from their actions and words to be the central part of their sense of self. They spent a lot of time on queer wikis, looking up new possible identities. They avidly “ship” fictional characters into same-sex couples, express anger/disappointment when shows/books have hetero couples, and talk constantly about LGBTQIA issues, representation, etc.”

Source: https://slate.com/human-interest/2021/07/queer-identity-changing-care-and-feeding.html